WHY 6 MONTHS?

Alright, so let’s talk a little bit about why it should be a six-month challenge and why you should actually want to change your life over the course of six months. 

I personally believe that there is too much content out there that gives the false impression that change is easy. 

So many people are promoting these overnight success stories, whether it be with their health, their business, or their finances, but particularly around personal development. 

And what I’ve realized as a coach is that so many people are under the belief that their life is going to change overnight. You’re going to read enough books and consume enough content that one day, you’re just going to magically wake up and either be an ultra-productive or ultra-focused or ultra-healthy person. 

This is just not the way that humans change. 

Humans actually need processes and periods of integration to recalibrate to their new habits and their new lives. 

Something that I love is the analogy of climbing Mount Everest, you know, a lot of people are just desiring to jump right to the top of the mountain. Do you know that if you just magically were able to just jump right to the top of Mount Everest that you would die? 

When people climb Mount Everest, they go up, then they go down a bit to recalibrate, and then they go up and down and up and down, and up and down until they reach the top. 

This is because you absolutely need time to make mistakes, you absolutely need time to adjust to this new life that you’re building, and you definitely need time to recalibrate. 

You are going to make mistakes, there are days where stuff is just gonna feel like it’s not working. 

You need time to be able to adjust to this new version of yourself. 

You need time to be able to experiment with the strategies that you are using to better yourself. You can’t just sit down and say I’m going to change my life and then tomorrow go off and be absolutely perfect at it. 

It is very, very uncommon for people to have such a quick change in their life. 

My personal belief is that regardless of what the actual time frame is, it does take time. 

YOU HAVE TO GO EASY ON YOURSELF

You will make mistakes. 

If you decide to be healthier, you probably will have junk food or miss a workout. 

If you decide to get your financial position in check, you probably will have moments of weakness where you spend on unnecessary things. 

This is all a part of the process. 

Failure is a part of the process. 

But I think where we go wrong is we say to ourselves, this month, I’m going to change my life and a month goes very quickly. And so as we see the days disappearing, we feel worse and worse and worse about ourselves to the point where we give up trying altogether. 

So give yourself an appropriate amount of time, maybe it’s longer than six months, maybe it’s 12 months, the time duration doesn’t actually matter. All that matters is that you are giving yourself enough space to recalibrate and experiment along the way.

HOW TO ACTUALLY CHANGE YOUR LIFE

THE MINDSET

When it comes to mindset, the first thing is that you have to take radical responsibility. Nobody else is going to change your life for you. 

Another misconception that I think a lot of us have is that somebody is coming to save us or for a lot of women specifically they have the misconception that somebody is going to come and give us permission. 

You do not need permission to change your life. And you do not need to rely on anyone else to change your life. 

You are in control of your destiny. 

As corny as that does sound when you truly take responsibility for yourself and the changes that you want to make in your life, it is one of the most liberating things ever. 

This particular topic is something that I go to in way more detail in my killer confidence course taking radical responsibility and building in our authority so that you can take action.

But, honestly, just to mention here, if you are going to partake in this challenge, the first thing that you need to do is take 100% responsibility 100% of the time. 

And, remember, it’s not going to look like what you think it’s going to look like. 

We see so much on social media, and these things absolutely can be a positive influence,  however, you’ve got to realize that they are just a snapshot. 

Your change is not going to look like you jumping from the life that you live now into your Pinterest board. 

It is going to be a process, a journey. Some days are messy, some days are ugly, hard, challenging. 

It’s not going to look like this perfect journey where you just magically, one day wake up and everything is different. It takes time. 

You’ve got to be okay with it being messy, challenging yourself, going through the difficult times. But the most important thing is just that you dedicate yourself not to giving up and that you give up the idea that it’s going to look perfect because it never, ever will.

None of this is going to work if your intention is weak. If you don’t have a solid why behind the specific things that you decide to change over the course of the next six months, I promise you, at the first sign of weakness, you will give up. 

So many people are giving up on themselves, their health goals, their business goals, their life goals, simply because they have no idea why they truly want these things. 

If you don’t have a really hardcore personally associated reason as to why you want to make the changes that you’re going to decide to make, it will be so easy for you to procrastinate, to self-sabotage. 

Every single time a challenge comes up for me the number one thing that I do is revert back to my why. I revert back to why I want this thing to change or this thing to happen or for me to achieve this goal. And as much as it doesn’t take awa
y the sting of the challenging time it at least recalibrates my focus. 

So make sure that your intention behind the changes is really deeply personal. And they absolutely set your soul on fire. 

Don’t just try to get healthy because social media tells you that you should look a certain way. Don’t just try to get rich because entrepreneurship is like the buzz thing at the moment. 

Do it for you. 

Do you want to make money? Incredible. Why do you want to make money? You want to get strong and healthy? Why do you want to get strong and healthy? Make sure you’ve got a solid personal intention behind your change.

THE ACTION

I have six steps to help you to set yourself up and to support you along this six-month journey:

1. You have to get clear on what it is you want. What specific areas of life do you want to change? What do you want the outcome to look like? How do you want to feel? Ask yourself all of these questions. 

2. Reverse engineer a strategy. You cannot simply just sit down and say I want this thing or I want that thing and not actually have clear action steps to getting there. If you are here and you want to be here, all you’ve got to do is take the steps to get there. The best way to figure out what steps that you should take is to start thinking about reverse engineering. You already know where you desire to be, find people who are there and figure out what they did to get there. 

3. Work on your worth. Why most people don’t change their life is simply because they don’t feel like they deserve the things that they desire. If you don’t have this internal sense of self-love, this great relationship with yourself, and internal sense of self into Haggerty and self-respect change will be even more difficult than it already is. You have to work on building your relationship with yourself. What do you need to do to feel confident you have more respect for yourself to love yourself more? Because when you love yourself more than you love anything else on this planet, you will want to do what’s in the best interest of you. And that is going to support you in changing your life. 

4. At the start of these six months, you want to have a day where you set yourself up for success. This is where you start booking things. If you are saying that you want to get healthier, and you want to get stronger, go find yourself a gym or a martial arts studio. Put them in your calendar. Make it tangible. It’s so easy to get caught up in the vision and the action steps and never actually take action. Do everything that you need to do to support this growth journey.

5. Have a weekly check-in. Ask yourself, how did I do this week in accordance with the action steps that I have committed to taking over the six months? And if I haven’t done so well, even if I have done well? How can I do better next week? What do I have to change? Remember how in the beginning I said it’s all about experimenting and recalibration. It’s not going to look perfect, you are going to mess up. Messing up is a part of the process. But in order to recalibrate correctly, you need to have a process of checking in.

6. Connect with the vision every single day. It’s too easy to just let the date slip away. In order to stay focused, to be able to actually change your life, have some type of practice to connect with your vision every single day.