GET INTO YOUR BODY

The first thing that you can do to feel more attractive is that you need to get into your body. 

The reality is so many of us (me included, it’s fine) are living our lives in our heads. We’re living our life in Thought-Town. We’re living our life overly critical of ourselves, judging everything, over analyzing situations and this isn’t where sensuality or sexuality comes from, right? It comes from your body. 

You need to get into your body. You need to get out of your head and into your body as often as you possibly can. That’s not to say don’t think at all. Of course not. What I’m trying to say is when you actually feel into your experience, more so than analyze everything that’s going on, you get a deeper sense of connection to yourself. And when you have a deeper sense of connection to yourself, you’re going to feel more love towards yourself and therefore more attractive. You’re just gonna feel attractive because you’re going to be embodying your own sense of sensuality, sexuality, and attractiveness and confidence. 

Really practical things that you can do:

• First of all, dance.

I’m constantly dancing every single day. I’m putting all my favourite tunes on my google home and I am dancing the house down because it makes me feel so deeply connected to myself. It makes me feel hot, it makes me feel sexy, it makes me feel like I want to show up more and take more action because I’m so out of my mind and into my body. 

What I’m saying is dancing is such a good way to just feel deeply connected to yourself.

• Another way is to exercise.

Whether it be running or whether it be a martial art, whether it be playing a particular sport, yoga, Pilates…the list goes on. 

Again, anything, where you can drop into your human experience, is going to really help you to feel good about yourself. 

And I mean, we’ve all seen Legally Blonde: “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands.” 

• The other thing you can do is sex or masturbation.

Either help you to generally create a really, really good feeling in yourself. But also a really deep sense of connection with yourself.

Like there’s nothing shameful about sex or having sexual experiences. This also really does help you to feel good in your body.

PERSONAL STYLE

The second way that you can feel a lot more attractive is to work on your own sense of personal style. 

Look, I’m not saying to go completely re-curate your whole entire wardrobe, but the reality is a lot of us are following trends. Trends that are just not made for our body or our look specifically. 

Do the work. Take the time to actually figure out the styles and trends that are going to suit you best. You know, the way that you look, your colourings or your body type. 

Like actually do the work, go into a physical store, just stop buying shit on Instagram, go into a physical store and actually spend time trying things on, being super intentional about your purchases. Figure out what shapes of clothing and what silhouettes actually suit your particular physique. And again, what colours suit your colouring, your hair colour, your eye colour, your skin tone, all of these different things. 

So many of us just see an influencer on social media wearing something, think that they look great, buy it, realize it looks like shit on us and takes a huge hit to our personal sense of self attractiveness.

SPEND TIME WATCHING REELS 

Hear me out, hear me out, hear me out. Hear me out what I mean by this is a particular category of reels: categories of confidence. 

I have generally trained the algorithm to know that I like a particular style of content, and that content is people being badasses and loving themselves. So I’m often delivered a lot of different reels that are just a range of different people, people who are from all different parts of the world, all different backgrounds, all different things that they’re doing with their lives. But they’ve all got one thing in common is they love themselves.

And why this is so helpful for your own personal sense of self attractiveness is when you see a range of different people who you can tell love themselves and feel attractive in themselves, it allows you to break the illusion that there is only one certain type of look that is classified beautiful. And you realize that actually, the most attractive thing is confidence. 

The energy behind someone who looks a certain way can be so off if they’re not confident in themselves. But when you see people just loving themselves, it just inspires you so much to realize that there is no one version of beauty, there is no one version of attractiveness. It all comes down to how we feel about ourselves. 

STUDY YOURSELF WITH ADMIRATION

Look, I’m not gonna lie, this is really difficult. Like it really, really is quite difficult to stare at yourself in the mirror. 

If you don’t have a solid sense of self-love or self-worth at this stage to look at yourself in the mirror and look at your physical appearances and study yourself can be very confronting, but please just give it a go. 

I’ve spoken about mirror work a lot. 

Studying yourself with admiration when you’re just about to get in the shower when you just get out of the shower, like stand in front of the mirror naked and just look at your body with your hands with your eyes with your hair. Look at your collarbones, look at your stomach and just send love to those particular areas. 

You can’t just have another body not gonna wake up and have another body to try to appreciate your body for what it does for you, try to appreciate your body for what it is. Think about how people your actual body is and think about all of the wonderful things that your incredible body allows you to do. 

When you look at the life that your body allows you to live, you will start to feel so much more love for yourself. And again, when you feel more love for yourself, you will feel way more attractive in yourself. 

SMILE + PRACTICE POSTURE

Two things instantly make people more attractive: The first is to smile. 

The more you smile, the more you’re just going to project positive energy out and positive energy is one of those things that is super attractive. 

Posture
is another. Posture exudes confidence. 

Well, posture is really one of those things that will make you instantly more attractive because it makes you seem more confident. 

You’re slumped over in life, you probably don’t feel that great. 

It will help you to feel more confident. And when you feel more confident you exude more attractiveness. 

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF 

My sixth tip is just to do everything that you can do to take care of yourself. Honestly, when it comes to attractiveness, I think one of the biggest things is a healthy glow. When you are taking care of yourself meaning that you are hydrating, when you’re eating the right things, when you’re sleeping, when you’re sweating through exercise, you generally will have a little bit of a glow about you which is going to make you seem more attractive to yourself. 

There’s so much pride that can be found in taking care of yourself. 

When you do a workout and you really push yourself, you’re going to feel good. And when you feel good, the way that you see yourself is just going to be different. 

When you feel proud of yourself, inspired, motivated, because you’ve taken care of yourself, you’re generally in a more positive mindset. And when you look at yourself with a more positive mindset, you’re generally going to just see more positive things. 

And so taking care of yourself is more likely going to lead you to view yourself with a positive lens. 

BE HAPPY

Just be truly happy. 

Work on your own sense of happiness. 

If you’re someone who is truly living in alignment with the goals that you have for yourself. When you’re generally just living for yourself and just trying to live your best life. You are generally going to appear more attractive. Because it’s that sense of self-confidence and that sense of inner happiness that makes someone attractive. 

There’s just so much attractiveness in a person who just loves themselves and loves their life. And so that’s what you really want to aim for. How can you fall in love with yourself and your life? Because that is truly where attractiveness comes from.