I never feel like I am doing enough… (Ft. Katelyn Alyssa)
Do you ever catch yourself feeling like you’re not doing enough? Not showing up online enough, not creating enough, not connecting enough…the list goes on.
The theme of this episode today is really just dropping some of this pressure because you know why that is the chillpreneur way. We need to chill out on all of the pressure that we put on ourselves to do more, be more, achieve more.
I want to build this. I want to do this. I want to create that. I want it to come on and just share with you that if you are someone who struggles with this feeling of like, I’m not doing enough, that is totally, totally normal.
ASSESS AND REDIRECT
I feel like this all the time. And I’ve always felt like this. I’ve always felt like I could be doing more, I should be doing more.
If I was doing more than I would be achieving more. I always had this underlying feeling of not doing enough. However, what I will say is that I have gotten really good over the years at being able to distinguish whether or not this thought is actually true.
There are particular times in my life where I’m just simply not doing enough. You know, I’m being a bit lazy. I’m procrastinating, I’m letting self-sabotage and fear get the best of me or maybe I’m distracted. You know, at the beginning of the year, after going through my breakup, I was pretty distracted, you know, with life and dating and all these different things. I wasn’t doing enough in my business.
So there are particular times where I’m having these thoughts around feeling like I’m not doing enough and they are all warranted. And I enjoy this experience because it allows me to recalibrate. It allows me to say, look at myself in the mirror, face myself really honestly, and take responsibility for what I’m trying to achieve in my life.
Asking myself the simple question. If I want to experience X kind of life, am I actually taking responsibility for the action to get there? And if the answer at that particular time is no, because as I said, I’m letting fear get the best of me or I’m distracted.
Then what it allows me to do is to create a strategy to redirect whether I need to plan better, whether I need to sit down and work on my fears or my limiting beliefs, whether I need to better organize myself, whether I just need to recheck my priorities.
Having this thought sometimes is a good thing.
BE WARY OF THE HYPER-PRESSURE
There are many times in which we are victims of the hyper-aggressive pressures of society and social media. I find that we are all constantly feeling like we are not doing enough. Even if we are doing everything we possibly can. This is why it’s so important to be super, super, super self-reflective. When you are having these feelings of I’m not doing enough, I’m not achieving enough, I’m not good enough…You have to be able to be really honest with yourself. It’s, it’s okay to face yourself and recognize that a different course of action is necessary for you to get to your goals. However, if you feel like you are showing up to the best of your ability to the best of your own personal timetable, your own schedule without moving into burnout or hustle territory and to the best of your current skillset and you still feel like you’re not doing enough, this is a matter of pressure, external pressure.
It is not actually new for us to feel the pressure of needing to do more, be more achieve more. That has just been a part of human conditioning for a very, very long time. You know, that hustle culture that tells us that we need to work hard, that we need to grind, rise and grind. You know, all of these things, right. Then there’s social media where it’s like, everyone’s on holiday and they’re in the best shape of their life. And they’re making all this money and they’re doing all of these things and they’re achieving, you know, massive growth in like 3.5 seconds
A lot of this of course is a highlight reel. A lot of it’s fabricated. Take everything that you see on social media with a grain of salt.
You have to really recognize, are you showing up to the best of your ability, meaning you’ve got the right intention behind what you’re doing, you’re iterating your strategy, you’ve got good goals. You know, you’re being as efficient as you possibly can.
Are you showing up to the best of your timetable? Like you’ve got to just take radical self-acceptance. If you have a nine to five job, you are literally not going to be able to do as much as someone who is working on their business full-time. It might take you a little bit longer, but that’s okay because that’s your story and your journey.
Do what you can with the skills that you have at this particular point in time, stop letting social media or society make you feel like you are not doing enough. Only you can actually determine whether or not you are doing enough.
And you know, it’s a very simple thing, you know, that if you are spending more time scrolling or, you know, just laying on your couch or hanging out with friends when that time could be spent on content creation and then wondering why your account isn’t growing, you know, that you know that right.
Only you know when this pressure of I’m not doing enough is actually valid. It takes a lot of self-reflecting. It takes a lot of looking at yourself and being really honest. Am I wasting my time? Am I being inefficient? Am I procrastinating? And letting fear get the best of me? Am I experiencing resistance?
If you are showing up to the best of your skills, to the best of your timetable, to the best of your ability, and you still feel like you’re not doing enough, stop that. Stop letting the pressure of everybody else’s results and achievements make you feel like shit about yourself because you’re doing the best you can.
10% is better than 0%.
You don’t always have to show up at a hundred per cent. Maybe sometimes you show up at 1% or 10%, but it’s still better than nothing.
It’s a scale. Some days you’re at a hundred per cent, some days you’re at 1%, but you know, when you’re showing up at 0%, you know, when you’re not doing the thing, you know, when you’re not working on yourself, you know, when you’re not taking care of yourself, you know, when you’re not showing up for your goals, for your dreams, for the life that you want to live. And if you are showing up for the life, you want to live it and do all the things and then still feel like you’re not good enough. It’s not good enough. It’s trash. You’re never going to get anywhere. That’s a matter of external pressure.
And this is where you’ve got to work on your relationship with yourself. This is where you actually have to be super self-reflective.
We have this negativity bias that always focuses on the negatives, always focuses on the this isn’t good enough. I’m not good enough. I’m not growing fast enough. Again, the things that social media make us feel like we should be achieving when in reality we’re doing the best we can.
I want you to start a self-reflecting routine of some sort, whether that be at the end of the day, you know, just some kind of like gratitude list and going through, and actually looking at what you’ve achieved, whether it’s just like a weekly audit or a monthly audit, it doesn’t matter whatever suits you and has felt good. But just putting some time in your day for reflecting and asking yourself a simple question: is the pressure that I’m feeling of not doing enough warranted be
cause I’m actually not doing enough. Or am I letting myself be influenced by social media and society?
[16:43] LEARN HOW TO SQUASH PERFECTIONISM IN YOUR BRANDING WITH KATELYN ALYSSA
Here’s a sneak peek:
“It’s always going to be a work in progress. Just accept that your whole visual identity will always be a work in progress.
There will always be tweaks that need to be made. It’s kind of like the icing on the cake for your brand, but it’s not really your brand. It’s the visual identity of your brand, but it’s not like the personality of your brand.”
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