3 Mindset Shifts You Need to Live Your Best Life
Today, I’m going to share with you three mindset shifts that will help you just live your best life.
Now I know a lot of people on the internet talk about “living your best life”, which in reality is a concept that is extremely, extremely subjective. Every single person’s definition of success and “living a good life” will be totally different from one another. But one thing I know for sure is that for most people, what they’re trying to do is chase happiness, chase satisfaction, chase comfort, chase freedom.
And so what I really wanted to do was share with you three mindset shifts that have been transcendent across all the different areas of my life. Whether I’m trying to achieve monetary success, whether it be more peace, more harmony, better relationships, these three mindset shifts really, truly do help me live the best life I can possibly live.
1. YOU ARE STRONGER THAN THE WORST-CASE SCENARIO
One thing that I realized is that so many people are so afraid of failure. So many people don’t try new things, they don’t get into relationships, they don’t take action because they are so afraid of the worst-case scenario.
Additionally to this, humans have something called a negativity bias, meaning that we get fixated on the negatives of situations and what we can quite often do is catastrophize the possibility of those negatives. For instance, when a lot of people think of starting a business their mind goes to, “I’m going to fail”, “I’m going to lose all my money”, or “my friends are going to ostracize me” and “then I’m going to be rejected from the whole entire universe.” Well, that just isn’t the case. No matter what it is that you’re trying to do, there is still always going to be a worst-case scenario, there is still going to be the potential of risk, however, one of the mindset shifts that truly allowed me to feel so free and so capable of achieving anything that I wanted in life was that I am stronger than the worst-case scenario.
What I want you to do is train yourself to get to the point where you truly believe, no matter what the outcome of any scenario, that you have the strength to get through it. Because the reality is that you do. Even if you profess your love to someone and they reject you, yes, it’s going to be embarrassing, it’s going to hurt, it may change your social structure for a little while, but you can get through it.
I think that we think that embarrassment or physical pain is the end of the world. But it’s just not.
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“It’s not the end of the world until the end of the world.”
We just don’t realize how strong we actually are because for most of us, we just simply don’t give ourselves the chance to prove it. Go out there and try new things. Prove to yourself how strong you are. Because once you start to accumulate momentum in that feeling of strength, you’ll be able to try so many new things and enjoy so much richness in all different areas of life.
2. PEOPLE DO NOT CARE AS MUCH AS YOU THINK THEY DO
The second mindset shift that will truly transcend every single area of your life is that you have to realize that people do not care about you as much as you think that they do. One thing that holds so many of us back from trying new things, experiencing new areas of life, going after what we want, is that we think that every single person is obsessed with us, we think that every single person we encounter is solely looking at us and judging us constantly. That just isn’t the case. People aren’t thinking about you as much as your mind is making it out that they are.
When it comes to living a good life, one of the things that I know for sure makes up someone living their best life is growth, is trying new things, is the feeling of pride that you get when you challenge yourself or when you achieve a goal or even when you don’t achieve a goal but you learn an incredible lesson along the way. If you’re feeling stuck in life right now, if you feel like you’re just not moving forward, and that’s the reason why you’re not able to live your best life, I guarantee you one of the most crippling things is probably because you’re so worried about every single other person’s opinions. When you can truly, truly let that go and realize that people aren’t thinking about you as much as you think that they are, it is the most freeing mindset shift that you can make.
Again, I think that living your best life is contingent on the feeling of being happy and feeling free and one of the biggest cages that we put on ourselves is this suffocating idea that everyone is just constantly fixated on every single one of our moves and so we keep ourselves so small and so stuck in life. When you learn to live large and take risks and try new things, regardless of what the outcome is going to be, that truly will help you to live a better life and feel so much happier in the process.
3. CHALLENGE IS JUST A PART OF THE PROCESS
It sounds simple, but when I fully embraced this mindset shift, it blew my world wide open. Life isn’t always supposed to be good.
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“I want to challenge you to consider the 50/50 of life. The “and” instead of “or.” You can be good AND bad… and still love yourself.”
Life is in fact, a 50/50 split. 50% of life is going to be absolutely amazing and 50% of life is going to be challenging to some degree. This was so freeing for me and allowed me to live a much better quality of life because I reduced all my expectations. I reduced the expectation that every single day was supposed to be amazing, that if I was going to do a morning routine it had to be perfect that if I was going to try something new that I had to be good at it and I had to not quit at it. It’s just not reality.
I am a positive and optimistic person and I’m always striving to find the joy and the gratitude in life, but realizing that challenge is just a part of the process. I think a lot of our suffering actually comes from not met expectations. You know, the Buddhist philosophy of suffering is having an attachment to things. And when we attach ourselves to the way that we think life should look because that’s the way it looks on social media, or that’s the way we think other people’s lives look, we can induce so much unnecessary suffering in our own lives. But when you realize that life is incredibly seasonal, incredibly malleable, and you become okay with that, life is just so much more manageable.
And the reality is you want it to be full of highs and lows because of the lows, there are the parts where you grow, and the highs, there are the parts where you thrive. But you wouldn’t feel so high and excited in life if you didn’t have those lows. And so, if you truly want to have a good life, find peace with the seasons of life, find peace with the fact that someday’s are going to be amazing and someday’s are going to be bad. You know, it’s all just a part of the journey. When you can find peace in that no matter what your life looks like, you will feel so much more peaceful and so much freer.
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