10 Habits to Start Before 2021 (life changing success habits)

Today, we’re going to cover 10 habits to help you create success for the new year. 

Now, I actually made a video about this a couple of years ago, and it was one of my most popular videos ever, but I’ve learned so much since then about what it truly means to be successful, what the characteristics are that make up successful people, and the habits you need to adopt to get there. So I figured it was time for a refresh!

Before we jump in, know that the biggest difference between those who are successful and those who aren’t successful is self-worth. So all of the habits that I’m going to be sharing with you today really are based on the cornerstone of self-worth. Because when you get that right, you will become completely unstoppable in your pursuit of happiness and success.

1. Make a focused list of the things you want

You need to get into the routine of creating a focused list of the things that you want. 

I know this seems like basic goal setting 101, but sometimes the best tips are actually the most simple. 

Recently I had one of my most successful launches ever in my business. It almost felt like it was effortless and yet I still hit all of my goals. I made over six-figures in sales. And one of the reasons I think I was able to do that was because I was so specific about exactly what I wanted the launch to look like. 

What I want you to do, the habit that I want you to get into is writing out that top goal that you have and then make a list of all the specifics around that goal.

For example, for me, with my launch: i

  • I wanted to enrol 30 students into my Simply Business group coaching program. 

  • I wanted the launch to be effortless. 

  • I wanted it to feel easy and fun. 

  • I wanted all of the women to be incredibly diverse and I wanted them to be at different stages of business, some just starting out and some a little bit further on. 

Every single thing that I broke down on that list came true. Why? Because I was so intentional about how I wanted the experience to be, which made me not have to question the actions that I took and what I was trying to attract. 

What do you want the experience to look like? 

What do you want the experience to feel like? 

Try to get as specific as you possibly can. 

Putting those things out into the world, writing them down, is just going to help your reticular activating system be wide open towards the possibilities that will lead you through to those specifics. 

Get in the habit of writing a specific list around your goal, and then just focusing on how to actually bring that to life.

Change the way that you speak to yourself

This could be one of the most profound things that I have learned this year. It has honestly changed the trajectory of my life and my business.

I really started noticing just those sneaky little thoughts that popped into my mind that told me I wasn’t good enough, or that I didn’t know how to do something… 

It’s really common to have these thoughts just floating around in the back of our experience—sometimes going completely unnoticed. 

We have to make sure that we are changing the way that we speak to ourselves because whatever we say to ourselves will become our reality. 

We trust ourselves at the core of things. So when we’re telling ourselves things like you can’t, you won’t, you’re not good enough. That is exactly what we’re going to believe. And therefore that is going to be the creation of our experience. 

We have to make sure that we’re slowing down and listening to what’s actually going on in our brain and doing what we need to do to start changing those thoughts into something a little bit more empowering and positive.

One of the ways that I have done this is through mirror work: saying things out loud, looking at myself in the mirror. Over time through repetition, my positive thoughts were able to drown out my negative ones and I am seeing myself in a completely different way. 

Another thing that you can do is hypnosis. Hypnosis is something that is being studied a lot more in neuroscience as a way to really change the brain. Because hypnosis really focuses on the points of deep focus while in a deeply restful state, it’s one of the best ways to actually change the molecular structure of those neural pathways in your brain. So whether you record a hypnosis for yourself or you use one that is on YouTube, those things will really, really help you to completely change your perspective.

If you don’t think you’re worthy of success, it’s unlikely that you’ll take the action that you need to bring that success to life. So work on those thoughts going on in your brain to really start thinking more positively and more self-empowered.

2. Find people who expand your awareness of possibility

You need to start finding people that expand your perception of what’s possible. 

Leslie Phillips, a manifestation teacher that I absolutely love, coined the term expanders. but I’ve 

They study this in communities as clusters. The economic status of certain clusters really will determine what’s possible for the generations within that cluster. And so something that you want to do is be really, really intentional about the people that you are spending your most time with. Now, that’s not to say that you need to have a family full of millionaires or that all of your friends need to be successful entrepreneurs.

But think about the content that you’re consuming: 

  • who are you following on Instagram? 

  • Who are you following on YouTube? 

  • Who are you letting infiltrate your mind on a daily basis? 

  • And what are their beliefs about success and money? Are they expanding you and expanding what’s possible?

  • Or are they contracting you? 

You really need to be spending as much time as possible being expanded by people who’ve achieved the success that you desire to have yourself.

3. Learn one thing every day

You need to start learning something new every day. There’s just no way around this. Every successful person ever is going to tell you to read books, watch videos, go to seminars. 

It’s about finding ways and methods that work for you, that you find fun and enjoyable. I’m not going to sit here and tell you that you need to read one book a week or that you need to be listening to seven hours of podcasts or investing in particular programs. 

Make it as simple as possible and commit to learning one new thing every single day. Maybe one day, that is a new methodology for success on a particular platform, and maybe one day, it’s just a new fact. 

But, if you commit to learning something new over the course of the whole entire year, over
the course of a whole entire month, your level of knowledge around a particular topic that’s important to you will be so much greater than it is today. 

Just sit down for five minutes at the end of the day and ask yourself, what did I learn today?

4. Take care of yourself

You have to start taking care of yourself. 

This is one that there is just no way around. 

You have to start taking care of yourself. If you don’t have enough energy to take action, you probably are not going to do it. 

If you don’t have enough energy to show up online and build the business of your dreams, you’re probably not going to enjoy that success.

And the reality is the things that are going to give you energy are pretty basic: move your body, get enough sleep, and focus on your nutrition + hydration. 

5. Learn to prioritise

You have to get good at prioritizing. So many people ask me how I’m able to be so productive and yet still have a full life, and it really is because I really do prioritise taking action on the things that I know will move the needle in my life and in my business. 

I’ve never been one to go for extra credit or to try to do things perfectly. I’ve always been someone who is like, right, I’m just going to do what needs to be done. And that thing that I’m doing needs to be important. And that’s why I think I’m able to still achieve so much in my business, but do it without working 16 hour days or burning myself out. 

The reality is those little tasks are never going to move you forward. 

So, I want you to set up a priorities list.

Think about those goals that you set in the beginning, those focus lists that you made, and then next to that, actually write a list of things that will move the needle in those areas. 

Spend more time creating content and putting it out into the world, than you are choosing a filter or font colour.

6. Stop wasting time with faux hustle

We have a kind of issue within our society because a lot of people thrive off being busy. 

I see so many entrepreneurs really adamant about fully blocking out their calendar from the moment they wake up to the moment they go to sleep with things that may need to get done. 

When in reality, most of the time, we’re actually not doing things that move the needle in our life or in our business. 

You really need to sit down and understand: What am I actually spending my time on? Is this a truly important task? Or is this faux hustle? Am I keeping myself busy to make myself feel good? Or am I actually moving the needle in my business?

That is something that you need to be asking yourself each and every single day. I’ve seen so many women here online who year after year, are in the exact same position that they were before. And yet they spent the whole entire year working on their business. How can this be? 

If this is resonating with you, you need to ask yourself, am I faux hustling? Am I taking all of the actions, but really just going round in a circle with the stuff that doesn’t increase my visibility and doesn’t make sales in my business?

7. Develop a healthy dose of self-assurance

This could be the most profound thing that changes your life forever…You need to develop a healthy sense of self-assurance. 

We have this tendency to think people that are self-confident or self-assured as egotistical, but the reality is, if you are going to be successful, you have to be self-assured enough that you can actually go out and tell people, these are my goals. 

This is what I’m going to achieve. 

This is my content, you should watch it. 

This is my program, you should buy it. 

If you aren’t someone who’s able to self-celebrate or self-promote, you are probably not going to be successful in the online space. 

You have to get comfortable with celebrating yourself. You have to get comfortable with promoting yourself. There is nothing egotistical about it. 

8. Treat your environment with respect

You really need to make sure you are treating your environment with respect. 

Get into a habit of decluttering and making sure that your environment is something that inspires you and makes you feel empowered. On top of that, you need to keep your space clean. Get rid of the junk that you don’t need, get your laundry done…

These are really easy things to do, but when you get in a habit of treating your environment with respect, I promise you that it will have a spillover effect into wanting to treat your body with respect and wanting to treat your mind with respect. 

9. Slow down your decision-making.

You need to slow down with your decision-making.

Change is hard for so many people because our society has set us up so that we aren’t empowered to make better decisions. We’re so accustomed to living an extremely busy life that we don’t even know how to slow down enough to really decide little things. 

We’re so distracted and everything is so fast-paced that it’s difficult for us to make the best decisions for ourselves.

It is just such a common occurrence in people’s lives. They just make decisions on autopilot because it’s the easy thing to do or because you’re just not even thinking at all. And these decisions usually end up being the wrong ones. 

If you just literally took the time to just take a breath in and ask yourself, what is it I want to do? You’ll make much better decisions. So you’ve got to really just get in the habit of slowing down. 

Anytime you have a decision to make, stop, take a deep breath, and count to 10. Then make the decision, if you need to. But either way, when you start to slow down your whole entire life, you’ll start to slow down your decision making. And I promise you, you will make much better choices. 

When it comes to changing your life, when it comes to developing habits, it’s not like a light switch where today you’re just going to switch it on. All of these habits are going to be integrated into your experience. 

< p class="" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">There are small changes that you’ll make that are going to make profound differences over time and slowing down could be the start of all of that.

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